NOW usually, if someone told you that your ex-husband had started shagging your best mate, you’d be fuming right?
That’s not the case for chef Poh Ling Yeow.
The host of SBS’s Poh & Co and runner up in the first season of MasterChef, who also runs a popular food stall at the Adelaide Farmers’ Markets, talked about her unusual relationship dynamic on Mamamia’s I Don’t Know How She Does It podcast.
“He’s my ex-husband. She’s my best friend. And when we broke up, they got together and it’s all dandy. It’s actually really good,” she said.
“Everyone tries to complicate it for us. From the outside in, they’re all like ‘love triangle’! And I’m like, ‘no!’ He’s like my brother now and I think … people are never interested in the backstory. They want everything to be sordid.”
She explained how her former marriage broke down over several years, but eventually the pair split on good terms.
“For about three years we were like flat mates, we were really good mates and we couldn’t figure out how to break up because there was so much pressure from both sides of the family,” she said.
“The next step was to have a child and in our heads we knew we couldn’t bring a child into such a volatile relationship.
“We broke up on really good terms. It was still really hard. Break ups are horrible. Because no matter what, even now, I still have a little cry over it and it’s not because I wish we were still together or anything.
“But there’s something about two humans wanting to murder each other like that, that is so sad.
“When you torment each other, destroy each other. It’s still really sad.”
She still works with her ex-husband and says now enough time has passed that everyone is all good.
“We’ve just come full circle. It’s quite funny sometimes [because] people don’t know our history. I’ll lose my shit at him … in an ‘ex-wife’ sort of way and people are like ‘Whoa, you really gave it to him’ and I’m like ‘Yeah, we used to be married’ and they’re like ‘Oh, right, that’s explains a lot’.”
Now, Poh has a new husband, called Jono. Funnily enough, he’s the bloke who used to drive her between the MasterChef studio kitchens and the house all the contestants stayed in.
“We weren’t really allowed to talk because that’s part of the rules. You can’t fraternise with the staff because I guess they can tell you secrets [about the next challenge] or something,” she said.
“I think it got a little more charged because we weren’t allowed to talk to each other. It was like playground … cute looks across the yard, sort of thing. Then, after the show we hooked up.
“There was a wrap party and we exchanged numbers straight away and it was all guns after that.”
Good for you Poh.
Watch Poh catch up with her larger-than-life crew of fun-loving family and friends as they navigate life in the Adelaide suburbs. In this new season, there will be loads of new laughs, an abundance of food and a few secret family recipes along the way.